Something Personal….Talking About Feeling Broken

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There is so much noise about the topic of self-improvement/help that it can feel overwhelming!  It almost seems as if there is a to-do-list that we have to complete each day for self-love and happiness.  I love to keep a planner, write to-do-lists and jot down reminders on sticky notes.  It keeps me organized with all of the little things I need to accomplish each day.  But what about the to-do-lists that we sometimes have floating around our minds, dictating us about what we “should” do?  I should write affirmations this morning.  I should do yoga.  I should eat something healthy.  I should put on a smile . . . . even though I feel broken inside.

I once did all the things that made me appear really healthy.  Now, when I look back at pictures from that time in my life, for a second I forget the broken person that I was inside.  Put simply, I didn’t feel like I was good enough.  It is easy to start comparing ourselves to our peers or people on social media.  This wasn’t the reason for my brokenness, and I am still not sure what I felt I wasn’t good enough for.  When I left for Savannah last Fall, I left behind the cocoon I kept around myself that made me feel safe.  In a way, this was the beginning of me choosing to not stay broken.  Sometimes the seemingly stable routines, rituals, and images that we create for ourselves are the walls that keep out the light of new possibilities.  I don’t want to give anyone the wrong idea….this year there have been many times where I have felt sad, lonely, or afraid.  Little by little, I am trying to shift my perspective.  If I don’t do something that I feel like I should do, or avoid trying something because I am afraid, I remind myself to open my heart.

With an open heart, we can keep moving forward, moving past the walls we’ve created for ourselves.  It is happening exactly like Dr. Wayne Dyer said, “Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.”  For me, I am finding that believing there is constant light and love surrounding us is helping me heal the brokenness I so often feel.  It is longer lasting than completing an impossible list of health rituals each day, because light and love is infinite, everlasting, and forgiving.

We are only limited when we think things should be a certain way, or that they already are.  And what I am trying to say is that by believing in a higher power, we can change this way of thinking; and we can open our hearts to the light and love that is around us right now, in this very moment.

Thank you so much for reading,

Carly xx

For Love & Lemons

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Happy Sunday beauties!  One thing I am becoming more and more sure of is quality vs. quantity, especially after I have been noticing that a few pieces of mine are falling apart! With that being said, I am saving my pennies to invest in For Love & Lemons.  I have never said this before about a label, but I would wear every single piece they have ever made.  I love soft prints and lace, and For Love & Lemons creates the most beautiful silhouettes out of them.  What I love most about their clothes is how the designs are ultra feminine, sexy, and can go from day to night.  Versatility and quality are the two things I look for the most in a brand.  I saw on Instagram this morning that they are getting ready to release their Fall campaign and I cannot wait to see it.  Also, if you are going to shop directly from their website be sure to sign up for UNiDAYS so that you can receive 15% off!

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I am constantly keeping an eye out for their pieces to go on sale.  It is that time of year where I am purchasing new bras, and I happened to find a bralette of theirs for $40!  Yay!!  I am sharing more on the clothes side of For Love & Lemons today, but they are just as known for there skivvies as they are for their dresses.

I would love to know what your favorite brand is in the comment section!  As always, thank you so much for reading.

Much love,

Carly xx

Nineteen

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Birthdays are a funny thing.  I never really feel very different after them, whereas I usually feel different after milestones like when I got my driver’s license, graduated high school, or started college.  A birthday simply means that you are another year older, and for me, it almost seems like it is more exciting for my parents!  I usually just feel grateful on my birthday to have had another year on this planet.  Cheesy?  Maybe.

I am now nineteen years old, onto my last year as a “teenager.”  And I am sure many of you who read my blog are teenagers!  Unsurprisingly, like every teenager, I went through stages where it felt like nothing would get better.  This is so common that I feel like I don’t even have to really elaborate much on it.  Growing up can be confusing!  I didn’t know who I wanted to be, or where I was going.  I was afraid of everything.  The reason I am so excited about this year is because I don’t feel so afraid anymore.  When I think about the things I used to be afraid of, it all just seems so silly.  There are always going to be things in our lives that can trigger stress or fear.  But we are not the things that happen to us, the emotions we feel, or even the thoughts that pass through our minds.  Behind all of this lies our true selves, who peacefully watch everything happening before us through loving eyes.  Recently, I have been constantly reminding myself to have this perspective.  It all stems from letting go, to be happy no matter what happens.  So here’s to a happy number nineteen!

Also, another tiny update before I go . . . . I got two tattoos yesterday!  And it definitely didn’t hurt like I thought it would.  I have one on the inside of my upper left forearm and one on the inside of my right wrist.  They are still healing, so I am waiting to post pictures.  But photos are coming, I promise!

Thank you for reading,

Carly xx

How Affirmations Have Helped Me and How You Can Incorporate Them Into Your Everyday Life

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I received a message from a super sweet reader the other day, and one of the things she asked me was how affirmations have helped me.  Before I delve into this post, I just have to recommend Treasure Yourself by Miranda Kerr.  I have mentioned it so many times, but it really did change my perspective and help me in ways that I cannot put into words.  I remember first learning in that book affirmations that I could say to myself.  Walking down my high school halls, I would think to myself, “I am a vibrant, healthy, and joyful being of light and love.”  I would say that I love and accept myself, releasing negative thoughts as they came up.  In all honesty, I felt a bit silly at first.  It wasn’t until I began feeling lighter that I knew something within me was changing.  I was a sophomore in high school at that point, and my junior and senior year were actually some of the lowest  points for me.  But I feel so grateful to have read Treasure Yourself and having had learned of the power of positive thinking before those times.  I like to think that reading that book prepared me for the obstacles in my path, because I cannot imagine getting through that time in my life without knowing that no matter how sad or lonely the world around me felt, something special was still to come.  Difficult times are inevitable in every life, but the way we choose to deal with our own struggles is what ultimately creates our future.  We can choose to handle situations gracefully, with kindness and empathy.  I will be the first to admit that I do not always handles things in the best possible way . . . I can be impulsive and sometimes the world feels so small.  In those situations, I try to be kind to myself afterwards and move forward knowing that I learned from that experience.  Everything I learn and continue to learn comes from positive thoughts, and that is where affirmations really seem to help me.  I try to pick a couple to focus on each day, or if I am not sure what kind of mood I am in, I will pick them at random.  I have both of the Treasure Yourself and Empower Yourself affirmation card decks by Miranda Kerr, which make frequent appearances in my Instagram photos. We can make our own affirmations as well, as long as they are always spoken from a positive perspective.  I have lists of affirmations that I made in drawers and hung up around my room, but one of the most effective ways that has worked for me is writing affirmations in my journal in the morning.

If you need a few affirmations to get started, here are some of the affirmations I have written on a list in my room (all are from either Treasure Yourself or Empower Yourself):

❤ I love who I am . . . . just the way I am.

❤ I am grateful for everybody and everything in my life!  I am so blessed with abundance, joy, health, and contentment.

❤ I accept my uniqueness.

❤ I love writing the script of my life.

❤ I believe that everything will work out in the way it is meant to.

❤ Everything I am searching for is within me.

❤ I am open to all possibilities and do not place limits on myself.

❤ I communicate with myself often and with kindness.

Please feel free to leave any questions for me in the comment section, or email me at gracefulglassslipper@gmail.com!  You can also direct message me on Instagram @carlybrazeal.  I would love to do more posts about affirmations in the future, and the posts in the Beautiful Words category on the banner are centered around positive thoughts, too.  Thank you so much for reading,

Carly xx