Something Personal….Talking About Feeling Broken

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There is so much noise about the topic of self-improvement/help that it can feel overwhelming!  It almost seems as if there is a to-do-list that we have to complete each day for self-love and happiness.  I love to keep a planner, write to-do-lists and jot down reminders on sticky notes.  It keeps me organized with all of the little things I need to accomplish each day.  But what about the to-do-lists that we sometimes have floating around our minds, dictating us about what we “should” do?  I should write affirmations this morning.  I should do yoga.  I should eat something healthy.  I should put on a smile . . . . even though I feel broken inside.

I once did all the things that made me appear really healthy.  Now, when I look back at pictures from that time in my life, for a second I forget the broken person that I was inside.  Put simply, I didn’t feel like I was good enough.  It is easy to start comparing ourselves to our peers or people on social media.  This wasn’t the reason for my brokenness, and I am still not sure what I felt I wasn’t good enough for.  When I left for Savannah last Fall, I left behind the cocoon I kept around myself that made me feel safe.  In a way, this was the beginning of me choosing to not stay broken.  Sometimes the seemingly stable routines, rituals, and images that we create for ourselves are the walls that keep out the light of new possibilities.  I don’t want to give anyone the wrong idea….this year there have been many times where I have felt sad, lonely, or afraid.  Little by little, I am trying to shift my perspective.  If I don’t do something that I feel like I should do, or avoid trying something because I am afraid, I remind myself to open my heart.

With an open heart, we can keep moving forward, moving past the walls we’ve created for ourselves.  It is happening exactly like Dr. Wayne Dyer said, “Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.”  For me, I am finding that believing there is constant light and love surrounding us is helping me heal the brokenness I so often feel.  It is longer lasting than completing an impossible list of health rituals each day, because light and love is infinite, everlasting, and forgiving.

We are only limited when we think things should be a certain way, or that they already are.  And what I am trying to say is that by believing in a higher power, we can change this way of thinking; and we can open our hearts to the light and love that is around us right now, in this very moment.

Thank you so much for reading,

Carly xx

Self-love and Following Your Dreams

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❤ A dreamy photo of Paris by Paris in Four Months, before beginning a novel of a post

I have been thinking about this all day, and here it goes:

I didn’t know what I wanted this blog to be when I created it.  All I knew was that I wanted a platform to fill with inspiration.  What Graceful Glass Slipper could be or grow into was something that I felt extremely frustrated with for nearly two years.  I remember dancing around my house the day I bought my url, celebrating something even though I had no idea what could possibly become of it.  Graceful Glass Slipper is a work in progress, but I finally know what direction it is going in.

This is something I have mentioned before but I want to to explain it once more.  I am a fashion design major (my sophomore year begins this September), so why is my blog becoming more and more beauty and wellness focused?

When I was fifteen, I read Treasure Yourself.  It changed my life because it introduced ideas to me that have altered the way I think and feel about life.  I will forever be grateful for the impact Treasure Yourself  had on me, and no matter what, I am able to go back to it for guidance.  It has led me to read more books that carry similar principles, ones that go even more in depth with certain ideas.

In grade school, we learn how to add and subtract and memorize vocabulary words.  Each of these things are important, but I think we also need to be taught how to take care of ourselves.  I can’t help but wonder why, in the midst of all that we learn in school as young children, we are not taught how to love ourselves and truly understand the thousands of thoughts that go through our minds each day.

Treasure Yourself taught me how I can choose to love and accept myself; and each time I take time out of my day to go for a walk or practice affirmations, I feel inspired to work on other areas of my life …. like following my dream to become a fashion designer.  Learning how to choose organic products for my skin or being mindful of what I am eating are seemingly small things that inspire me to keep going forward and move through the obstacles in my life.  The more I learn about my own body and soul, the more I feel like I have the tools I need to live each day to the fullest.  And I use the word tools very loosely, because in this moment, we all have everything we need to be happy.  Happiness isn’t expensive or something that we can only have if we have something else first.  Happiness is a feeling we create within ourselves through our own thoughts and actions.

I used to shy away from sharing things like this, which is similar to what I would write in my journal.  Writing openly and honestly like this has made me realize that I want Graceful Glass Slipper to be that place.  I want readers to leave Graceful Glass Slipper feeling inspired to love and take care of themselves so that they have the confidence to follow their dreams.

Remember to love your beautiful self,

Carly xx

“Is this really you?”

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For my final project in Fashion Technology this past Spring quarter, I was to construct a jacket.  Each student was given the same patterns, but we were aloud to pick out our own unique fabric and buttons.  I fell in love with this super soft, white velvet fabric from my favorite local fabric shop in Savannah.  While I was there, I also found buttons that were black and had gold trim with a gold skull and crossbones in the middle.  I went ahead and purchased the fabric, but decided to wait to purchase the buttons since they were so different from my usual style.  Here is the thing: I could not stop thinking about those buttons, so much so that I ended up purchasing them the next day!  I was more excited about this garment than any other one that I constructed that quarter (and this is including the bow and polka dot print skirt I made).  Fast forward to the last class of the quarter, where I was putting the final touches on the jacket that included sewing the buttons on.  The sewing tech in my class walked over to me, picked up one of the buttons, looked me in the eye and said, “Is this really you?”  I could tell that she didn’t like the buttons, and while I didn’t mind whether she liked them or not, her question took me aback.

I began to think about the way I am often openly told about the preconceptions people tend to have of me.  Yes, I own an exceptional amount of clothing in the color blush, my voice is higher than the average gal, and I have a rather soft demeanor.  However, when people get to really know me, they are often surprised by how different I actually am.  And with that, here is my answer to the sewing tech:

I don’t know.  I don’t know if those buttons are really me just like I don’t know if the ballerina skirt I am wearing right now is really me.  Why can’t they both me?  In my style post last week, I mentioned how much I have changed this past year.  We change as we grow and that is an important part of the beautiful process of life.  I think that it is limiting to feel as if we can only dress or be a certain way.  Maybe the next time I wear my tulle ballerina skirt, I will tuck my Grateful Dead tee into it.

One of my favorite bloggers compares her blog to an onion, in saying that it has a lot of layers.  I think that this is a great metaphor for people, too.  There are layers to each of us that the world doesn’t get to see right away, and this is why I think it is important to really try to get to know each other before passing judgement.  And people do surprise me everyday, in the most beautiful, kind ways.  I like to look at this in the way that when we do something that seems outside the realm of our style, it is simply just another layer to our personality, or an indicator of personal growth.

It’s okay to not know exactly who we are yet.  I used to not allow myself to do things because I was afraid to find out that it wasn’t who I was and I didn’t want to look silly.  In college, I’ve really let that go.  I have most definitely embarrassed myself a few times, but I’ve also made memories and discovered things that I will cherish forever.

I want to leave this post with one of my favorite affirmations from Empower Yourself, “I celebrate my uniqueness and individuality.  I am happy to be.”  I love saying this to myself because it reminds me to love all of the quirky aspects of my personality, and I am learning to not be afraid of exploring all of those weird quicks.  We are all beautiful and weird and doing the best that we possibility can.  We may not always know what the right thing to do is, but we can choose to live lovingly and courageously, and sometimes that means feeling a little silly here and there.  The more loving and accepting we are of ourselves, the more free we will feel to be ourselves.

I hope that you were able to relate to this, if even just a little.  If you have a story to share, feel free to leave it in the comment section!  And of course, thank you so much for reading.

Much love,

Carly xx

Kora Organics Hydrating Mask

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One of my favorite things to do to relax is put on a face mask, and the Kora Organics Hydrating Mask has been my tried and true favorite for years.  While the bottle says to let the mask set for 5-10 minutes, I love leaving mine on for hours while I drink a cup of tea and read or watch a movie.  It is my favorite kind of “me time,” and taking this time out to not think about homework, or the little things that I sometimes let get to me, always leaves me feeling happier and centered.  I talk about Kora Organics again and again, simply because it is my favorite line of skincare and their products are an integral part of my everyday self-care routine.  They’ve recently changed the look of some of their products, as well as redesigned their website.  In addition to that, I noticed the prices have been lowered, making the products so much more affordable (and me a very happy college student).

The Kora Organics Hydrating Mask contains Noni Extract, vitamins, and minerals to clean, hydrate, restore, and protect the skin.  This mask has really made a difference in my skin, especially when it comes to preventing irritation from environmental factors.  I see a noticeable difference when I am using the Hydrating Mask on a regular basis, and it leaves my skin incredibly smooth and fresh feeling.

In this post, I also chose to include a picture of the back of the product, because the different positive words on each Kora Organics product are a part of why I believe they make such a huge difference in my skin (besides the lovely, certified organic formulations of course).  The positive words are inspiring and uplifting, and remind me that self-love plays an important role in the care of your skin.

❤ Positive words = positive energy

Thank you so much for stopping by my blog today, and I would love to know if any of you decide to try the Hydrating Mask!

Much love,

Carly xx